We now have this light shining in our hearts, but we ourselves are like fragile clay jars containing this great treasure. This makes it clear that our great power is from God, not from ourselves. 2 Corinthians 4:7

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Granny's Bible



My first defining moment with racism occurred in the living room of my grandparents’ home in Lexington, Kentucky.  As a young black man became visible walking down the street, my granny yelled out to my mom, “Helen, shut the front door, there’s a nigger coming down the street!”

I was shocked.  My Bible-believing Christian grandparents were racists!  Here in Springfield, Ohio, I would never, ever dare to use the n-word; and to hear it coming out of a prim and proper Southern Belle’s mouth made it seem even more profane.

I began watching her.  In public, when she was near people who weren’t white, she would cross the street, move to the other side of the store, and generally cower away from them.  She wouldn’t sit near them in restaurants.  She feared them.

I developed a great deal of contempt for her.  I judged her.
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I was young and I did not yet have the maturity to challenge her perceptions.  I had not been raised to question the beliefs of adults, anyway.  The very thought of asking my grandmother why she behaved in a certain manner never occurred to me.
She is gone now, and I do not know why.  What was in her past that caused this belief to be nurtured in her life?  Had she been hurt, and developed an irrational fear from it?  Was it something her family, her church, her community had indoctrinated into her; and she had never broken through those chains?

I was judging her through the lens of my past, not hers.

 I recall hearing one—just one—racial slur come from the mouths of one of my parents in the forty years of my life.  It was meant to be a joke between the two of them, and I didn’t understand it at the time.  But suffice it to say that my father was teasing my mom about her new curly perm, and she didn’t think he was funny.

My parents—particularly my father—taught through example that people were to be valued by what was inside them, and not what was visible on the outside.  Skin color, clothing, cleanliness, behavior issues…all the children he dealt with as an educator were always unique and special individuals who deserved compassion and love.  And the ones who seem especially unlovable are the ones that need the most love.
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So I had an advantage over my granny.  I don’t think she received that kind of example.

Once Granny and Papaw died, my parents wrapped their Bibles up in identical wrapping and gave them to my sister and me— thus reducing the question as to who should receive which Bible.  I got Granny’s.  I wanted Papaw’s.  Who wouldn’t?  So many memories of him relaxing in his chair, his silver hair glistening, with his Bible open before him. 

But I see now that God had a bigger plan.  This morning, I took Granny’s Bible out from the high, dusty shelf where I had placed it.  It’s the Bible that belonged to an imperfect, fallible, human being who carried baggage around from her past.  Just like me.  There is one bookmark in her Bible, and I assume it was she who placed it in the book of Romans, where she has made little check marks and ticks on certain verses.

Romans is my favorite book of the Bible.

We all journey together.  I cannot judge others for flaws in their lives; I cannot understand their walk without having lived it myself.  God sees my flaws and responds with Grace.  How dare I respond in any other way?
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